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The Big O: The Scandinavian Guide to Female Pleasure

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A modern, clarion call for more and better orgasms for women, by Scandinavia’s answer to Esther Perel.

“Everyone knows how the typical Hollywood movie sex scene goes. A man and woman melt into each other’s arms, losing themselves in frenzied passion. Bypassing all foreplay, the man thrusts himself into the impassioned woman and, after a couple of minutes, they come togetherwith a delicious moan.”

Throughout history women’s sexuality has been suppressed, denied, and treated as some kind of a disease. Many women don’t consider their own orgasms as important as their partners do theirsespecially women in heterosexual relationships. But the female orgasm is an issue of equality, which is something that needs to be talked about. The female orgasm is a wonderful thing.

Forget the movies: the reality is that women’s orgasms are rarely achieved without a little effort. At some stage in their lives, many women will suffer from difficulty climaxing; it might escape them or they may not even come close. There’s no one way to get to the top but, fortunately, getting there is achievable.

The Nordic countries are renowned for their strong women and their relationships with their physical bodies. In this approachable yet professional, fresh yet serious, tender yet confident book, renowned Finnish sexual therapist Marja Kihlström offers up modern psychological and practical advice for women tackling the obstacles standing in their way to their pleasure.

In addition to the author’s own advice, readers get the chance to gain insight into real life problems experienced by others, how other women perceive their own orgasms, and how their partners can help them reach more and better orgasms.

Marja Kihlström (b. 1986) is a NACS‐qualified sexual therapist with her own practice in Helsinki, Finland. Kihlström has a well‐established media platform boasting thousands of readers and followers. Over the past four years, she has reached a significant audience through her blog, a weekly podcast, and TV series Sex Tape Finland, which is due to air on major Finnish TV channel Nelonen soon.


The Big O: The Scandinavian Guide to Female Pleasure, 2018
The Big O Workbook, 2019


Finnish PDF
English sample translation 60pp
Author letter

Rights sold

Estonian (Pegasus)
Polish (Zwierciadło)


“Recommended reading for people of all ages and genders.” – Aamulehti newspaper 

“This book guides readers towards a deeper understanding of their own sexuality and pleasure.” – Ilta-Sanomat newspaper

“Thank you, Marja, for this book and your openness [in it].” – Mammaswingaa blog

“The biggest lesson I came away with after reading this masterpiece can be summarised thus: the female orgasm demands and deserves presence in the moment.” – Sielunisilmin blog

“Sex is a subject we all want to talk more about, which is why we can strongly recommend this professional and well-written guide. A relevant book, that deals with our diversity in relation to the subject openly (diversity is beautiful!), as well as potential difficulties orgasming and how these difficulties can be tackled either on your own or with the help of a partner.” – Yes Girl blog

“A glowing recommendation to every woman I know: buy a copy of this book and read it carefully, from cover to cover… Whilst it’s essentially an orgasm guide for women, it would definitely be worth men’s while for picking up some good tips!” Lily blog

“Highly recommended – not just for women, but for everyone!” Valoa blog